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Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal !! -- Lubben vs. Lubben

The Fall of the House of Lubben:

Adultery! Wild Charges! Divorce! Guns! Paranoia! Photos and new twists emerge in the Shelley Lubben saga.

I recently received the following email concerning our favorite anti-porn charlatan:

I will keep names out of this but i have worked for shelley for years and i have been to the "Lubben Ranch" and worked for shelley lubben and a man named joe. i was not aware of garrett going to jail until poeple around town were talking. i was introduced to this ranch hand/ foreman as the boyfriend of shelley lubben. i did some work for her, for which i was never payed, [sic] but the man she was living with i guess she called the cops for a domestic disturbance and he was arrested some time around the christmas holidays.

i snapped these pics off of shelleys laptop when she was outside. all i know is that they seemed to be in love and his name is Joe[. He's] locked up in porterville or tulare and he's originally from bakersfield. also she uploaded some videos of him on her facebook. in your story i would like to let shelley know i have been working for her for years. and she needs mental help oh and her husband is a good lover :)

Along with the message came the following two photos:

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce Case

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case

Research indicates that "Joe" is Joseph Valley, aged 27, and that he was arrested by Tulare County Sheriffs early on Christmas morning, 2015, at the "Lubben Ranch".  

His bail was set at $50,000, which he has been unable to pay.

Mommy Wasn't Kissing Santa Claus

Garrett Lubben cuckolded by wife Shelley Lubben and Joseph Valley
Garrett, cuckolded no more

Shelley's husband, Garrett Lubben, was working on the road doing sales for his new company, with a home base in Bakersfield to watch the couple's two daughters -- so the youngest won't have to change schools -- while Shelley was in Springville getting real cozy with Joe the ranch hand in the love nest where Shelley had Garrett arrested TWICE in 2015 under dubious circumstances.

Sources says that the May-December romance began in the summer of 2015, not long after the Lubbens purchased the property and hired some workers, including Joe, to get it into shape.

Did Garrett walk in on something?

And why is Joe in jail? 

Wouldn't you know it, Shelley called in yet another DV case to the Tulare County Sheriffs.

UPDATE: It turns out her original claims were worse than that. See here

How Green Was My Valley?

Joe Valley does indeed hail from Bakersfield, where he had a few minor criminal cases, including:

Many of the charges against Valley suggest that he has been homeless and panhandling from time to time. The arrest log for the 2011 battery case lists his profession as "dishwasher".

Since the Springville "Lubben Ranch" is deeded in both Shelley and Garrett's names, it will be interesting indeed to see how this all shakes out at Garrett's upcoming trial in Porterville in April.

Now what could have set off this chain of events?

Perhaps the answer lies here:

On Oct. 13, 2015, five days after being arrested a second time at Shelley's "Ranch", Garrett filed for a legal separation in Bakersfield.

Did Garrett walk in on something?

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case
SOURCE: Kern County Superior Court website

Today, March 14, Garrett amended his petition to Dissolution of Marriage (divorce).

Joe Valley is scheduled for release on March 22.

UPDATE (March 22): Joe Valley has been released from custody, his sentence served.

UPDATE (March 24): Shelley has been served with Garrett's divorce papers.

The way of Peace

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case
SOURCE: Kern County Superior Court website

Over on Facebook, Shelley doesn't seem all that upset . . . and blames porn for her marital problems. Really.

Shelley, no one asked you to fight porn. Oh that's right. . . God almighty woke you up on the middle of the night and appointed you prophet in charge of eradicating porn (and if so, you failed conclusively, as did -- by extension -- God, which of course makes no sense).

Nice that you "hope people were helped." I'm pretty sure if anyone was helped it was purely accidental.

"We"? Who's "we"? Garrett filed on you after the aforementioned series of events.

FYI for readers: here is the divorce process in California:

UPDATE (March 29) Shelley inches closer to Branch Davidian / Jonestown-level paranoia:

Shelley Lubben's pink handgun

Shelley Lubben with AR-15
The mismatched, clashing plaids are a bonus.

Be vewy vewy quiet...

Lubbens To Face Off June 9, at Divorce Conference in Bakersfield

Bakersfield, Calif - In the wake of suspicious domestic violence charges and a genuine sex scandal surrounding self-proclaimed "prophet" and former Pink Cross Foundation head Shelley Lubben, the beleaguered Garrett Lubben filed for divorce in March of this year.

Lubbens To Face-Off June 9, at Divorce Conference in Bakersfield
Shelley and Garrett Lubben, seen here during a disastrous PornHarms webcast
from their home in Bakersfield, will face each other in court June 9.

Last week, Kern County Superior Court in Bakersfield set the first date in the Lubbens' divorce proceeding: a Mandatory Settlement Conference on June 9 at 1:30 p.m.

The Lubbens are next scheduled to meet face to face on July 19 at 10 a.m., when Garrett has court dates in his criminal cases in Tulare County Superior Court: a Jury Trial setting in his September DV case, and a Jury Trial Confirmation in his October resisting arrest case.

Over on Facebook, Shelley doesn't seem all that upset about the divorce . . . and blames porn for her marital problems. Really.

"We"? Who's "we"? Garrett filed on you after the aforementioned series of events.

We will have copies of the divorce filings shortly, but for now, as an FYI for readers, here is the divorce process in California:

Shelley Lubben Evades Restraining Order, Then Attempts To Steal Car With Accomplice Jan Villarubia

Bakersfield, Calif. -- In Kern County Superior Court, Tuesday morning, Judge Stephen D. Schuett declined to make permanent a Temporary Restraining Order requested by ex-husband Garrett Lubben and their daughters to protect them from Shelley Lubben.

The judge wanted compelling evidence of the clear physical threats to the petitioners and cared very little for any activity that occurred before June 9 of this year. That's the date of the couple's mandatory mediation and settlement conference. The two appeared amicable, in that they waived their mutual declarations of financial disclosure, and had been able to come up with up a binding Settlement Agreement. It would appear the court officers mistook their eagerness to be out of each other's lives (particularly Garrett's understandable enthusiasm to be rid of her) for cordial amicability.

Here is the report from the June 9 conference. (click on image to enlarge)

Shelley Lubben Evades Restraining Order, Then Attempts To Steal CarWith Accomplice Jan Villarubia

Because many of the (ongoing) events cited by Garrett took place before June 9, the evidence presented provided insufficient basis for the judge to grant a Permanent Restraining Order. 

Incidentally, here (for the first time anywhere) is the Lubbens' Divorce Settlement Agreement:

I've highlighted the section regarding their eldest daughter's 2015 Jeep Wrangler:

According to Garrett, he"gave her everything up there [in Springville] in the divorce" for a good reason: so that the and his girls could "start over with minimal memories remaining and zero spousal support."

Notice the document contains the clause:
Each party agrees to execute or deliver any instrument, furnish any information, or perform any other act reasonably necessary to carry out the provisions of this agreement without undue delay or expense.
This is important because 1) Shelley has taken no apparent steps to turn the Jeep over to Garrett and/or her own daughter via the California DMV and the loan company. (Their daughter drives it exclusively, and Garrett makes all the payments); and 2) approximately one hour after court let out, Shelley came to Garrett and the kids' house to confiscate Teresa’s Jeep from their driveway!

When asked for comment one day prior to the hearing, Mr. Lubben had replied:
My guess is Shelley will show up with a domestic violence advocate from Tulare County and make a plea to confiscate her daughter’s jeep that happens to be in her name.
He sure called it.  Knowing that Garrett had put down $20k + on the Jeep, Shelley Lubben was willing to fuck over her own daughter to sell it back and pocket the cash from its equity. 

So, Shelley called for a police escort to remove the Jeep which is in her name -- but neglected to inform them that, per the divorce settlement, the Jeep is Garrett's property. That's our Shelley.
Jan Villarubia, Shelley and their "shared daughter" Tiandra, who drove in from Las Vegas (yes, across state lines) to assist Shelley in her illegal plan. Shelley's 2015 Jeep Rubicon is parked behind them.

Garrett writes:
She had Jan Villarubia with her today who was eager to drive off with a $50,000 Jeep. [I'll bet... see here and here -- ed.] My girls were extremely scared and when I came home after being called, Shelley was standing on the sidewalk 2 doors down with 2 police cars and officers who read the divorce settlement and sent Shelley away. All new lows for her which we experienced at the Lubben Haus today.
Shelley's accomplice in attempted Grand Theft Auto, Jan Meza AKA Jan Villarubio

Over on Facebook, con artist Shelley was still plugging away for the rubes:
God is SOOOO good to me.... The judge just threw out the case. And here's the cool part, there was an empty broken chair there and it was the only one no one sat in and I was feeling nervous and the LORD said to me, "Don't worry Shelley I'm sitting right next to you." sniff sniff He is so good. Thank you for your prayers. They mean the WORLD to me. Maybe you can pray specifically for me to sell my ranch or that God would provide a way for me to have a good income since your prayers work so well!
LOL it always comes down to money for our Shelley, doesn't it?  Always has and always will.

New routes

The hearing today concluded with the judge insisting that if Garrett wanted to protect his minor child, then he would be well advised to use the child custody path, which does make a lot of sense in the long run, particularly in light of the blockbuster charges against Shelley that Garrett has already disclosed in writing under penalty of perjury.

This mess ain't over by a long shot.

UPDATE: I am informed that the day after Shelley failed to steal her daughter's Jeep, she called her daughter a "fucking bitch" at CarMax. Nice, huh?

Anti-Porn Crusader Shelley Lubben's Text Messages To Ex Are Simply Astounding

Former sex worker turned minister and "born again" anti-porn crusader Shelley Lubben made a career of opposing pornography, prostitution and sexual sin on every conceivable ground.  But after committing adultery and being served with divorce papers by her long-suffering husband, the suddenly cash-starved Lubben texted a series of screeds to her soon-to-be ex. 

Amazingly, she details her plan to quietly return to prostitution to pay her bills.

Anti-Porn Crusader Shelley Lubben's Text Messages To Ex Are Simply Astounding

In light of the significant increase in new visitors to this site, I've decided to take a small step back from reporting on Shelley Lubben's recent shenanigans and the carnival sideshow that is her life, and instead present some previously unseen material that well-illustrates who and what she is. 

The uncontested elements of her life story go like this: Shelley Moore, an attention-craving problem child turned alcoholic and drug addict (she also suffers from mental illness), worked as a prostitute and stripper in 1980s and '90s Los Angeles, and also shot a handful of long-forgotten adult videos during 1993 and '94. 

In 1995, she married a younger and less worldly man named Garrett Lubben and left Southern California. After a period of time studying at a church in Tacoma, Washington -- a time she refers to as her "recovery from porn" -- she returned to California in the 2000s and became known as an anti-porn crusader and minister.

The many public and private claims she's made over the years include that she was miraculously healed of herpes, as well of all her addictions and other physical and mental infirmities; that she receives direct revelation from God and Jesus Christ; that she is the reincarnation of the Prophet Elijah; and that she is on a special mission from God to eradicate pornography and masturbation.

She has also been caught in more lies and self-contradictions than any public figure I can think of.

Lubben is a textbook narcissist. To quote my brilliant associate Dr. David Ley, Ph.D., "The narcissist is actually plagued by self-doubt, and the core foundational thought or fear for the narcissist is that if they don't constantly tell everyone how great they are, then nobody will think they're great, then people will think that they're shit."

The Lubben Text Messages

The commentary I have added below is intended merely to provide a historical frame of reference, and is backed up by: details gleaned from my interviews with Garrett Lubben and others; court and law enforcement records; independent published accounts; Shelley's public statements and actions; private unguarded emails; and the contents of a lengthy chain of text conversations between Shelley and Garrett.

The following screen caps of text conversations were made on the iPhone of Garrett Lubben, Shelley's ex-husband. I can confirm that they were sent to and from Shelley's own private mobile number, and I can thus vouch for their authenticity.

This cache of messages in my possession dates from mid-2015, when she had begun a secret affair with Joe Valley (who had been hired by Garrett to work on the couple's ranch property in Springville, Calif.), through their legal separation and Shelley's pleas for another chance, to her accusations against Joe, her threats to Garrett, the Lubbens' divorce negotiations, and their eventual divorce in 2016.

Two things stand out here: Shelley's utter, hysterical desperation, and her tendency to be both ruthlessly calculating and clumsy in her manipulations. These conversations make it crystal clear that she does not want Garrett to leave her for good. Her boyfriend Joe Valley had been homeless and living in his car prior to starting work at the Lubben Ranch. Suddenly on her own again after 20 years, she is panicked. Accordingly, in text after text she alternates between threatening, seducing, cajoling and pleading.

Not once does she take responsibility for what has happened to her life.

We begin on April 1, 2016, at which point the Lubbens' divorce was a forgone conclusion:

EXCLUSIVE: Shelley Lubben's Text Messages To Garrett Are Astounding

A little over two weeks later, on April 17, 2016:

The Power of 911

By the summer of 2015, the Lubbens' marriage, which had been tense since 2011, was pretty much over. He was living in Bakersfield while she holed up at the Springville ranch property. Shelley had told Garrett she wanted to use the quiet seclusion to improve herself, both emotionally and to ease up on her out of control alcohol and drug use. But upon his return visit to the ranch, he found dozens of empty wine and liquor bottles as well as prescription bottles from Shelley's latest trip to Mexico.

He began quietly removing personal items from the house, but eventually Shelley caught on. When Garrett announced that he was leaving, on September 8, another argument began. According to Shelley's own statements (including those in their text conversations), she called 911 to calm him down, and keep him from leaving. However when the Tulare County Sheriffs arrived, she accused him of battery. 

Garrett was arrested and bonded out of jail.  Shelley, though maintaining that the arrest was Garrett's fault because he never should have yelled at her, eventually confessed in an affidavit (made under penalty of perjury) that it had all been a big misunderstanding. But not before a second incident at the ranch led to another arrest for Garrett.

On October 8, 2015, Garrett was arrested at the ranch on even more dubious charges, while Joe was present. In her text messages to Garrett, she blamed Joe for instigating the 911 call.

Although Shelley would later brag to her Facebook fans that her new young lover Joe Valley was a wonderful guy who was absolutely "on fire for God", she was at the very least lying by omission.  Their relationship was volatile and, according to local residents, involved much drinking. She also knew that Joe had a criminal record, and a history of drug use.  On Christmas Eve 2015 -- two months after Garrett filed for legal separation -- Shelley again called 911, this time targeting Joe.

When the sheriffs arrived, she accused him of domestic battery and rape. Lubben later recanted the rape charge, but, likely because she had visible bruises, the battery charge stuck and Valley wound up serving 90 days in jail.

Joe Valley's most recent mugshot.

Joe made me do it

Throughout her text messages to Garrett, Shelley repeatedly demonizes and insults Joe, and asserts that it was Joe, not she, who is to blame for Garrett's legal problems.

Joe Valley made me do it

This text dates from January 19, 2016, when Joe was locked up in a Porterville jail after Shelley accused him of domestic violence.  She and Garrett are still cordial here, and with Joe out of the way for now, she retains the hope of reconciliation with her husband.

The following message was sent March 4, 2016, while Joe was still locked up and her relationship with her estranged ex, Garrett, was deteriorating. The handwriting was on the wall. Ten days later, Garrett amended his filing for Legal Separation to initiate divorce proceedings. 

Is it just me or does Shelley seem concerned about what Joe might reveal under oath.

Hell hath no fury

Garrett had decided that over 20 years of Shelley had been more than enough. In addition, both of the children she'd had by Garrett had chosen to live with him and, predictably, Shelley felt spurned.  Her revenge, it would appear from these texts and from the timeline, was to trump up a bribery allegation against Garrett. She also informed her daughters (while they were still speaking) that she'd soon be back in their lives because their dad was going to prison "for a long time." But this, like all of Shelley's schemes, backfired.

When Shelley took the stand in Porterville last year, at a hearing before the Honorable Judge Michael B. Sheltzer related to the felony bribery charge, she presented herself to the court as a long-suffering victim of domestic abuse who was glad to be free of her manipulative abuser.  

Shelley testified that she came forward with the bribery allegation soon after making iPhone video recordings of a kitchen table negotiation with Garrett.  In court it was revealed that the videos were shot on October 31, 2015. However, 
Shelley had finessed the timeline, stating under oath that the videos were shot between February and April of 2016.

Shelley had actually brought the videos to the Tulare County sheriff on May 5, 2016, which just so happened to be a week after Garrett had blocked her calls and texts

The bribery charge was summarily dropped because there was no evidence that Garrett had induced Shelley to do anything unlawful, but as we see in these messages, her "good riddance to my abuser" premise was also a contrived lie.

To illustrate this point, let's travel back to April 2016. The divorce has not been finalized, Shelley and Joe are both unemployed, and Shelley is bemoaning her sorry financial state. 

Shelley had already made many attempts to win Garrett back since October 2015, while simultaneously proclaiming her undying love to Joe.  Here's a sample.

April 28:

God's own prostitute

April 24: Shelley is wallowing in self pity.  This astounding thread has much to offer, including one of her fullest renderings of the recurring motif of her life -- in Shelley's version of events she is always the victim or the hero, or both. 

Shelley claims she has suffered more than Job!

Several times in these conversations, Shelley admits that she is losing her vision. Yet she posts the following for public consumption on social media:

November 28 (2016) at 3:00pm ·

I'm liking the glasses look. I think I'm going to buy a pair of glasses even though I don't need them LOL these are a little bit too big for my face but yeah I think I'm going to get glasses.

April 29: Yet more allusions to returning to prostitution:

"There's only one option for me now."
"watch your sick wife go back to prostitution"
As a prostitute, Shelley says she'll bill herself as a "former adult actress and make a killing to help pay [her] medical bills."
As a prostitute, "I'll be rich soon," says Shelley.

Has a narrative of perennial victimhood ever been more clear and embracive?  I've often been asked why anyone would adopt and promote such a narrative and forever reframe their life experiences as ongoing, relentless -- even fated -- victimization.

A 2010 academic paper, "Victim Entitlement to Behave Selfishly", by Emily M. Zitek, Alexander H. Jordan, Benoit Monin, and Frederick R. Leach of Stanford University, may hold the answer.

Clinical psychologists have long suggested a link between unpleasant life experiences and a sense of entitlement. Freud (1916) observed that people who thought they had suffered poor childhoods felt entitled not to endure any more of life’s “disagreeable necessities”. . . . In a study of individuals with disabilities, those who least accepted their disability—those who presumably felt most wronged by it—felt most entitled to use alcohol and drugs (Li & Moore, 2001). This body of work suggests that at a chronic level, individuals who feel that they have suffered in life possess more of a sense of entitlement than do others who perceive their life narrative as more clement.
[The sense of entitlement may] lead individuals to behave selfishly by, for example, refusing to help, endorsing self-serving intentions, or claiming a bigger piece of the pie when sharing resources with others.
If they are under-benefited in one relationship (e.g., underpaid), they may try to over-benefit themselves in another. . . .  In support of this equity-with-the-world hypothesis, Austin and Walster (1975) found that participants who were underpaid by an individual in a first task were later more likely to underpay a different individual (and overpay themselves) in another task. . . .  [citations abbreviated or omitted]
Feeling like a victim alleviates guilt and engenders a sense of entitlement and a license to take advantage of others. This is what narcissism and sociopathy look like.