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Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal !! -- Lubben vs. Lubben

The Fall of the House of Lubben:

Adultery! Wild Charges! Divorce! Guns! Paranoia! Photos and new twists emerge in the Shelley Lubben saga.

I recently received the following email concerning our favorite anti-porn charlatan:

I will keep names out of this but i have worked for shelley for years and i have been to the "Lubben Ranch" and worked for shelley lubben and a man named joe. i was not aware of garrett going to jail until poeple around town were talking. i was introduced to this ranch hand/ foreman as the boyfriend of shelley lubben. i did some work for her, for which i was never payed, [sic] but the man she was living with i guess she called the cops for a domestic disturbance and he was arrested some time around the christmas holidays.

i snapped these pics off of shelleys laptop when she was outside. all i know is that they seemed to be in love and his name is Joe[. He's] locked up in porterville or tulare and he's originally from bakersfield. also she uploaded some videos of him on her facebook. in your story i would like to let shelley know i have been working for her for years. and she needs mental help oh and her husband is a good lover :)

Along with the message came the following two photos:

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce Case

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case

Research indicates that "Joe" is Joseph Valley, aged 27, and that he was arrested by Tulare County Sheriffs early on Christmas morning, 2015, at the "Lubben Ranch".  

His bail was set at $50,000, which he has been unable to pay.

Mommy Wasn't Kissing Santa Claus

Garrett Lubben cuckolded by wife Shelley Lubben and Joseph Valley
Garrett, cuckolded no more

Shelley's husband, Garrett Lubben, was working on the road doing sales for his new company, with a home base in Bakersfield to watch the couple's two daughters -- so the youngest won't have to change schools -- while Shelley was in Springville getting real cozy with Joe the ranch hand in the love nest where Shelley had Garrett arrested TWICE in 2015 under dubious circumstances.

Sources says that the May-December romance began in the summer of 2015, not long after the Lubbens purchased the property and hired some workers, including Joe, to get it into shape.

Did Garrett walk in on something?

And why is Joe in jail? 

Wouldn't you know it, Shelley called in yet another DV case to the Tulare County Sheriffs.

UPDATE: It turns out her original claims were worse than that. See here

How Green Was My Valley?

Joe Valley does indeed hail from Bakersfield, where he had a few minor criminal cases, including:

Many of the charges against Valley suggest that he has been homeless and panhandling from time to time. The arrest log for the 2011 battery case lists his profession as "dishwasher".

Since the Springville "Lubben Ranch" is deeded in both Shelley and Garrett's names, it will be interesting indeed to see how this all shakes out at Garrett's upcoming trial in Porterville in April.

Now what could have set off this chain of events?

Perhaps the answer lies here:

On Oct. 13, 2015, five days after being arrested a second time at Shelley's "Ranch", Garrett filed for a legal separation in Bakersfield.

Did Garrett walk in on something?

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case
SOURCE: Kern County Superior Court website

Today, March 14, Garrett amended his petition to Dissolution of Marriage (divorce).

Joe Valley is scheduled for release on March 22.

UPDATE (March 22): Joe Valley has been released from custody, his sentence served.

UPDATE (March 24): Shelley has been served with Garrett's divorce papers.

The way of Peace

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case
SOURCE: Kern County Superior Court website

Over on Facebook, Shelley doesn't seem all that upset . . . and blames porn for her marital problems. Really.

Shelley, no one asked you to fight porn. Oh that's right. . . God almighty woke you up on the middle of the night and appointed you prophet in charge of eradicating porn (and if so, you failed conclusively, as did -- by extension -- God, which of course makes no sense).

Nice that you "hope people were helped." I'm pretty sure if anyone was helped it was purely accidental.

"We"? Who's "we"? Garrett filed on you after the aforementioned series of events.

FYI for readers: here is the divorce process in California:

UPDATE (March 29) Shelley inches closer to Branch Davidian / Jonestown-level paranoia:

Shelley Lubben's pink handgun

Shelley Lubben with AR-15
The mismatched, clashing plaids are a bonus.

Be vewy vewy quiet...

Lubbens To Face Off June 9, at Divorce Conference in Bakersfield

Bakersfield, Calif - In the wake of suspicious domestic violence charges and a genuine sex scandal surrounding self-proclaimed "prophet" and former Pink Cross Foundation head Shelley Lubben, the beleaguered Garrett Lubben filed for divorce in March of this year.

Lubbens To Face-Off June 9, at Divorce Conference in Bakersfield
Shelley and Garrett Lubben, seen here during a disastrous PornHarms webcast
from their home in Bakersfield, will face each other in court June 9.

Last week, Kern County Superior Court in Bakersfield set the first date in the Lubbens' divorce proceeding: a Mandatory Settlement Conference on June 9 at 1:30 p.m.

The Lubbens are next scheduled to meet face to face on July 19 at 10 a.m., when Garrett has court dates in his criminal cases in Tulare County Superior Court: a Jury Trial setting in his September DV case, and a Jury Trial Confirmation in his October resisting arrest case.

Over on Facebook, Shelley doesn't seem all that upset about the divorce . . . and blames porn for her marital problems. Really.

"We"? Who's "we"? Garrett filed on you after the aforementioned series of events.

We will have copies of the divorce filings shortly, but for now, as an FYI for readers, here is the divorce process in California:

DV Charges Against Garrett Lubben Withdrawn; He Accepts Plea of Making a 'Loud Noise'

After years of dealing with Shelley Lubben, the justice system in California's Tulare County shows no confidence in the veracity of the scandal-plagued anti-porn crusader

Porterville, Calif. -- In Tulare County Superior Court, Wed. February 28, 2018, the suspicious criminal cases against Garrett Lubben, straight-laced husband of his disgraced accuser, Shelley Lubben, were finally laid to rest -- some 2 1/2 years after they were raised.

All charges that Garrett Lubben committed or even threatened any act of violence against Shelley Lubben were withdrawn.

In 2015, Garrett, 43, and Shelley Lubben, 47, put their Bakersfield McMansion up for sale and Shelley moved way out in the country, to Springville, in California's Tulare County, while Garrett remained in Bakersfield so that the couple's youngest daughter wouldn't have to change schools. 

Garrett's hope was that the new surroundings would help Shelley cut back on her immense daily alcohol and prescription drug consumption. However, when Garrett came to visit, he found the residence littered with empty wine bottles, and additional pill bottles. 

During a visit on September 8, 2015, Garrett was arrested for alleged domestic violence by Tulare County Sheriffs on the basis of a 911 call from Shelley. Garrett was charged with Infliction of Corporal Injury on a Spouse/Cohabitant -- a charge which is demonstrably out of character for the notably even-tempered businessman.

He bailed out early the following day.

Then on October 8 of that year, the Tulare County Sheriffs were dispatched once again to the Lubben homestead, and Garrett was carted off with a puzzling new charge: resisting arrest.

A handwritten statement by Shelley Lubben, signed under penalty of perjury on November 5, 2015, casts light on the events of September 8.

Shelley stated that the incident was not an instance of domestic violence, but constituted at most "a disturbance of the peace between two spouses."

On Oct. 13, 2015, five days after being arrested a second time at Shelley's "Ranch", Garrett filed for a legal separation in Bakersfield. 

The following month, Shelley admitted to a months-long affair with ranch employee Joe Valley.

On March 14, Garrett amended his petition to Dissolution of Marriage (divorce), and on March 24
proof was filed in Bakersfield that Shelley had been served with Garrett's divorce papers.

On May 5, 2016, approximately one week after Garrett blocked her calls and texts (which had vacillated between the two running themes of "let's work it out and be together" and "I'm gonna get you and make you pay!"), a disgruntled Shelley approached the Tulare Sheriffs with an accusation that Garrett had attempted to bribe her.  Her "evidence" of felony bribery was a couple of iPhone video clips directed and filmed by Shelley on Halloween 2015 as part of the couple's separation/divorce negotiations.

However, in February 2017, following hysterical testimony from ShelleyJudge Michael B. Sheltzer ruled that the video clips did NOT show an attempt to bribe Mrs. Lubben and all charges were dismissed.

All remaining criminal cases resolved

As we have pointed out on this site, whilst the Domestic Battery accusation rested on Mrs. Lubben's credibility, the charge of Resisting Arrest under Calif. Penal Code section 148(a)(1) was not dependent upon her word and would require actual trial testimony and presentation of evidence to unravel. 

In other words, there would be no plea arrangements, and an expensive criminal trial would be required for this non-violent misdemeanor, conviction of which usually results in a fine "not exceeding one thousand dollars". 

The only question was, what to do with the dubious DV charge.

Having been informed by counsel that Mr. Lubben, who has steadfastly maintained his innocence, would never plea to any aggressive or assaultive crime against Shelley, the District Attorney's office dug out a law originally promulgated in 1872 under which to charge him: California Penal Code Section 415(2).


The amended charge of Disturbing the Peace reflects the version of events laid out in the exculpatory handwritten statement by Shelley Lubben. 

Having loudly called his manipulative, cheating wife an "evil" woman on the day in question, Garrett found himself agreeable to accepting the arcane charge, on the further condition that Shelley Lubben could not be present at the time of his plea "to play victim". 

The District Attorney's office, which by now has had quite enough of Shelley Lubben, agreed.

And so, Garrett Lubben pleaded to the minor, non-assaultive misdemeanors of making a loud noise, as well as resisting arrest. He was sentenced to time served for the hours he spent in jail before bailing out, and given probation.

2015: The year Shelley Lubben discovered the power of 911

As revealed here, in 2015 Shelley had begun a fling with her "ranch foreman", a former dishwasher from Bakersfield named Joseph Valley (then aged 26).

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce Case

Shelley Lubben Sex Scandal -- Lubben vs.Lubben Divorce case

But then Shelley phoned in a domestic violence case on him, too!

On Christmas Eve 2015 (incidentally, also Valley's 26th birthday), the bleach-blonde Mrs. Robinson wanna-be dialed 911 about an attack at the Springville ranch property her husband had purchased.

The Tulare County sheriffs took Joe Valley into custody, and he was booked on early Christmas morning.

Valley, who had been living in his Jeep until Mrs. Lubben beckoned to join her atop the mountain, was unable to pay his bond, and remained in jail until trial. 

Here is the felony criminal complaint against Joseph Valley, which was filed by the District Attorney on December 29:

Now, rape and assault with a deadly weapon are no laughing matter. Yet, according to a spokesman for the Tulare County Superior Court, Valley was able to "plead to one count, while the others were dismissed." Surely DNA evidence would point to Valley. Did Shelley Lubben change her story?

His charge of domestic battery suddenly lowered to misdemeanor-level, Valley was sentenced to 90 days in jail, with credit for time served, given probation, and released on March 22, 2016.

By then, Garrett had already refused Shelley's numerous pleas for a second chance, and filed for divorce... setting the stage for a Lubben-Valley reunion.

Then, on June 26, 2016, Joe Valley was arrested for the crime of Possession of a Controlled Substance after being found to have a quantity of Alprazolam, a drug marketed under the name Xanax, without a prescription.

Xanax is a potent, short-acting benzodiazepine anxiolytic—a tranquilizer.

Where would Joe Valley obtain Xanax without a prescription? According to Joe's mother, Christina Valley, he got the pills from Shelley Lubben.

This narrative corresponds with Garrett Lubben's recollection as well: in August 2015, when Garrett visited the ranch property in Springville that he then co-owned, he personally saw bottles of Xanax at Shelley's residence that she had purchased in Mexico. He has never known Shelley to hold a valid prescription for Xanax.

These drugs were alluded to in Garrett's affidavit in support of restraining order he sought in July 2016 to protect himself and his daughters from Shelley.

In April 2017, Shelley Lubben got Joe arrested again. 

Even though he had moved back in with Shelley following his release from jail in March 2016, and she regularly posted photos of the couple out and about, taking road trips to Las Vegas, and even at a polling place on Election Day 2016, there was a criminal protective order -- a stay away order -- in place that legally prevented him from being around her.  

At risk to Joe's freedom, the couple ignored the order.

Something Joe said or did must have provoked Shelley's ire on April 13, and Joe was again taken into custody.

Valley was eventually released and moved back in to the Lubben Ranch. 

But that November, he was arrested on the property after allegedly striking and killing a cyclist on the way home to the ranch, while intoxicated. 

Valley is currently being held on $145,000 bail as he awaits trial for Gross Vehicular Manslaughter while Intoxicated, and fleeing the scene of the hit-and-run collision.

His next court date is March 15, 2018.

The Justice Center in Porterville, California

Anti-Porn Crusader Shelley Lubben's Text Messages To Ex Are Simply Astounding

Former sex worker turned minister and "born again" anti-porn crusader Shelley Lubben made a career of opposing pornography, prostitution and sexual sin on every conceivable ground.  But after committing adultery and being served with divorce papers by her long-suffering husband, the suddenly cash-starved Lubben texted a series of screeds to her soon-to-be ex. 

Amazingly, she details her plan to quietly return to prostitution to pay her bills.

Anti-Porn Crusader Shelley Lubben's Text Messages To Ex Are Simply Astounding

In light of the significant increase in new visitors to this site, I've decided to take a small step back from reporting on Shelley Lubben's recent shenanigans and the carnival sideshow that is her life, and instead present some previously unseen material that well-illustrates who and what she is. 

The uncontested elements of her life story go like this: Shelley Moore, an attention-craving problem child turned alcoholic and drug addict (she also suffers from mental illness), worked as a prostitute and stripper in 1980s and '90s Los Angeles, and also shot a handful of long-forgotten adult videos during 1993 and '94. 

In 1995, she married a younger and less worldly man named Garrett Lubben and left Southern California. After a period of time studying at a church in Tacoma, Washington -- a time she refers to as her "recovery from porn" -- she returned to California in the 2000s and became known as an anti-porn crusader and minister.

The many public and private claims she's made over the years include that she was miraculously healed of herpes, as well of all her addictions and other physical and mental infirmities; that she receives direct revelation from God and Jesus Christ; that she is the reincarnation of the Prophet Elijah; and that she is on a special mission from God to eradicate pornography and masturbation.

She has also been caught in more lies and self-contradictions than any public figure I can think of.

Lubben is a textbook narcissist. To quote my brilliant associate Dr. David Ley, Ph.D., "The narcissist is actually plagued by self-doubt, and the core foundational thought or fear for the narcissist is that if they don't constantly tell everyone how great they are, then nobody will think they're great, then people will think that they're shit."

The Lubben Text Messages

The commentary I have added below is intended merely to provide a historical frame of reference, and is backed up by: details gleaned from my interviews with Garrett Lubben and others; court and law enforcement records; independent published accounts; Shelley's public statements and actions; private unguarded emails; and the contents of a lengthy chain of text conversations between Shelley and Garrett.

The following screen caps of text conversations were made on the iPhone of Garrett Lubben, Shelley's ex-husband. I can confirm that they were sent to and from Shelley's own private mobile number, and I can thus vouch for their authenticity.

This cache of messages in my possession dates from mid-2015, when she had begun a secret affair with Joe Valley (who had been hired by Garrett to work on the couple's ranch property in Springville, Calif.), through their legal separation and Shelley's pleas for another chance, to her accusations against Joe, her threats to Garrett, the Lubbens' divorce negotiations, and their eventual divorce in 2016.

Two things stand out here: Shelley's utter, hysterical desperation, and her tendency to be both ruthlessly calculating and clumsy in her manipulations. These conversations make it crystal clear that she does not want Garrett to leave her for good. Her boyfriend Joe Valley had been homeless and living in his car prior to starting work at the Lubben Ranch. Suddenly on her own again after 20 years, she is panicked. Accordingly, in text after text she alternates between threatening, seducing, cajoling and pleading.

Not once does she take responsibility for what has happened to her life.

We begin on April 1, 2016, at which point the Lubbens' divorce was a forgone conclusion:

EXCLUSIVE: Shelley Lubben's Text Messages To Garrett Are Astounding

A little over two weeks later, on April 17, 2016:

The Power of 911

By the summer of 2015, the Lubbens' marriage, which had been tense since 2011, was pretty much over. He was living in Bakersfield while she holed up at the Springville ranch property. Shelley had told Garrett she wanted to use the quiet seclusion to improve herself, both emotionally and to ease up on her out of control alcohol and drug use. But upon his return visit to the ranch, he found dozens of empty wine and liquor bottles as well as prescription bottles from Shelley's latest trip to Mexico.

He began quietly removing personal items from the house, but eventually Shelley caught on. When Garrett announced that he was leaving, on September 8, another argument began. According to Shelley's own statements (including those in their text conversations), she called 911 to calm him down, and keep him from leaving. However when the Tulare County Sheriffs arrived, she accused him of battery. 

Garrett was arrested and bonded out of jail.  Shelley, though maintaining that the arrest was Garrett's fault because he never should have yelled at her, eventually confessed in an affidavit (made under penalty of perjury) that it had all been a big misunderstanding. But not before a second incident at the ranch led to another arrest for Garrett.

On October 8, 2015, Garrett was arrested at the ranch on even more dubious charges, while Joe was present. In her text messages to Garrett, she blamed Joe for instigating the 911 call.

Although Shelley would later brag to her Facebook fans that her new young lover Joe Valley was a wonderful guy who was absolutely "on fire for God", she was at the very least lying by omission.  Their relationship was volatile and, according to local residents, involved much drinking. She also knew that Joe had a criminal record, and a history of drug use.  On Christmas Eve 2015 -- two months after Garrett filed for legal separation -- Shelley again called 911, this time targeting Joe.

When the sheriffs arrived, she accused him of domestic battery and rape. Lubben later recanted the rape charge, but, likely because she had visible bruises, the battery charge stuck and Valley wound up serving 90 days in jail.

Joe Valley's most recent mugshot.

Joe made me do it

Throughout her text messages to Garrett, Shelley repeatedly demonizes and insults Joe, and asserts that it was Joe, not she, who is to blame for Garrett's legal problems.

Joe Valley made me do it

This text dates from January 19, 2016, when Joe was locked up in a Porterville jail after Shelley accused him of domestic violence.  She and Garrett are still cordial here, and with Joe out of the way for now, she retains the hope of reconciliation with her husband.

The following message was sent March 4, 2016, while Joe was still locked up and her relationship with her estranged ex, Garrett, was deteriorating. The handwriting was on the wall. Ten days later, Garrett amended his filing for Legal Separation to initiate divorce proceedings. 

Is it just me or does Shelley seem concerned about what Joe might reveal under oath.

Hell hath no fury

Garrett had decided that over 20 years of Shelley had been more than enough. In addition, both of the children she'd had by Garrett had chosen to live with him and, predictably, Shelley felt spurned.  Her revenge, it would appear from these texts and from the timeline, was to trump up a bribery allegation against Garrett. She also informed her daughters (while they were still speaking) that she'd soon be back in their lives because their dad was going to prison "for a long time." But this, like all of Shelley's schemes, backfired.

When Shelley took the stand in Porterville last year, at a hearing before the Honorable Judge Michael B. Sheltzer related to the felony bribery charge, she presented herself to the court as a long-suffering victim of domestic abuse who was glad to be free of her manipulative abuser.  

Shelley testified that she came forward with the bribery allegation soon after making iPhone video recordings of a kitchen table negotiation with Garrett.  In court it was revealed that the videos were shot on October 31, 2015. However, 
Shelley had finessed the timeline, stating under oath that the videos were shot between February and April of 2016.

Shelley had actually brought the videos to the Tulare County sheriff on May 5, 2016, which just so happened to be a week after Garrett had blocked her calls and texts

The bribery charge was summarily dropped because there was no evidence that Garrett had induced Shelley to do anything unlawful, but as we see in these messages, her "good riddance to my abuser" premise was also a contrived lie.

To illustrate this point, let's travel back to April 2016. The divorce has not been finalized, Shelley and Joe are both unemployed, and Shelley is bemoaning her sorry financial state. 

Shelley had already made many attempts to win Garrett back since October 2015, while simultaneously proclaiming her undying love to Joe.  Here's a sample.

April 28:

God's own prostitute

April 24: Shelley is wallowing in self pity.  This astounding thread has much to offer, including one of her fullest renderings of the recurring motif of her life -- in Shelley's version of events she is always the victim or the hero, or both. 

Shelley claims she has suffered more than Job!

Several times in these conversations, Shelley admits that she is losing her vision. Yet she posts the following for public consumption on social media:

November 28 (2016) at 3:00pm ·

I'm liking the glasses look. I think I'm going to buy a pair of glasses even though I don't need them LOL these are a little bit too big for my face but yeah I think I'm going to get glasses.

April 29: Yet more allusions to returning to prostitution:

"There's only one option for me now."
"watch your sick wife go back to prostitution"
As a prostitute, Shelley says she'll bill herself as a "former adult actress and make a killing to help pay [her] medical bills."
As a prostitute, "I'll be rich soon," says Shelley.

Has a narrative of perennial victimhood ever been more clear and embracive?  I've often been asked why anyone would adopt and promote such a narrative and forever reframe their life experiences as ongoing, relentless -- even fated -- victimization.

A 2010 academic paper, "Victim Entitlement to Behave Selfishly", by Emily M. Zitek, Alexander H. Jordan, Benoit Monin, and Frederick R. Leach of Stanford University, may hold the answer.

Clinical psychologists have long suggested a link between unpleasant life experiences and a sense of entitlement. Freud (1916) observed that people who thought they had suffered poor childhoods felt entitled not to endure any more of life’s “disagreeable necessities”. . . . In a study of individuals with disabilities, those who least accepted their disability—those who presumably felt most wronged by it—felt most entitled to use alcohol and drugs (Li & Moore, 2001). This body of work suggests that at a chronic level, individuals who feel that they have suffered in life possess more of a sense of entitlement than do others who perceive their life narrative as more clement.
[The sense of entitlement may] lead individuals to behave selfishly by, for example, refusing to help, endorsing self-serving intentions, or claiming a bigger piece of the pie when sharing resources with others.
If they are under-benefited in one relationship (e.g., underpaid), they may try to over-benefit themselves in another. . . .  In support of this equity-with-the-world hypothesis, Austin and Walster (1975) found that participants who were underpaid by an individual in a first task were later more likely to underpay a different individual (and overpay themselves) in another task. . . .  [citations abbreviated or omitted]
Feeling like a victim alleviates guilt and engenders a sense of entitlement and a license to take advantage of others. This is what narcissism and sociopathy look like.